Female sexual dysfunction can be as common as male sexual dysfunction. Vaginismus not only causes problems with sexual intercourse, but also with daily life. It can cause issues with using tampons and pain with pelvic examinations by a doctor. This vaginal spasm can be very painful and over 30 percent of women in the United States suffer from it. It is something very hard to discuss, so there may be more undiagnosed sufferers. This article will help you understand this condition and answer any questions you may be afraid to ask. It also gives helpful tips on how to deal with vaginismus.
The vaginal muscles relax and contract and is a normal physiological response. This is normally something you can control yourself. Vaginismus is when the muscles tighten on their own in response to something out of your control. It may happen just prior to intercourse, using a tampon, or a medical examination. The contraction can cause pain for insertion when it usually doesn’t hurt.
The condition can be so traumatizing that they shy away from intercourse and pelvic examinations. It is easily diagnosed when the doctor tries to do an examination and notices the response of the muscles upon insertion of a finger or speculum. Treatment is usually based on changing the response to touch with behavioral therapies, lubricants, and even counseling if necessary. Counseling is especially helpful if the response is due to sexual trauma.
The following are some of the causes of vaginismus:
History of sexual abuse or rape
Intercourse without “foreplay” to moisten the vaginal entry
Physical pain in the reproductive tract
Even with thorough investigation of the symptoms, sometimes there is no cause found.
Vaginismus can affect women both physically and emotionally. The main symptoms include:
Muscle spasms at the vaginal entrance
Pain or stinging with insertion of something foreign, for a example; a penis, finger, tampon
Feelings of fear when vagina is touched
Fear of intercourse
Low libido, sexual desire
Complete inability to insert a penis, finger or tampon
Loss of ability to have an orgasm
The symptoms may begin as a voluntary reaction, but over time if the condition is ignored the symptoms may become involuntary and you may find you are unable to control the spasms.
The diagnosis for vaginismus is pretty straightforward if your doctor attempts to examine you and the spasms result. They will also ask you about your history of symptoms, any medications you are taking, and sexual history. It is important to open up to your doctor about any history of abuse or sexual trauma so they can help you.
The doctor will need to examine your vagina and pelvic area to check for signs of vaginal injury or possible infection. There is also a condition known as, vulvodynia that can cause the nerves at the entrance to be unusually sensitive. If the examination makes you fearful or you feel pain, let your doctor know so they can maybe try another time or allow you to relax a little more.
If your doctor cannot find a cause, they may send you to a specialist for further testing. You may also be referred to a counselor or sexual therapy program.
The treatment for vaginismus is entirely up to you and your doctor what will work best for you. Some women need therapy and counseling prior to working on relaxing the vaginal muscles physically. Others can go straight into the exercises to help relax the pelvic floor and have great results. A small number of women may need a minor surgery to enlarge the vaginal opening, but this is rarely needed with advances in non-invasive treatment.
Kegel Exercises. This involves squeezing the pelvic floor muscles and then releasing them. It is much like stopping and starting the urine flow. You can do this on the toilet when urinating at first to get used to the feeling of the exercise:
Sit on the toilet and start your urine flow.
Stop your urine flow and hold for 5 seconds.
Relax your muscles and allow yourself to finish going.
You can repeat the start/stop a few times when you feel comfortable. If this causes you pain, stop and try again another time. After you are able to start and stop the flow of urine a few times, try it when you are not urinating. You can do these anywhere and anytime without anyone even knowing.
Finger Insertion. After you are comfortable with Kegel’s, you can try finger inserting while doing the exercises. Draw yourself a warm bath. Lay back in the tub and begin to do your Kegel exercises. After relaxing the muscles, try inserting one finger in the vaginal opening. If you begin to tense up, remove the finger until you can relax again. If you can get your finger in, try doing a few Kegels while your finger is inside. This will help you regain control of the muscles with something inside. Work your way up to a few fingers to get the muscles used to the feeling of something larger.
Therapy. If you cannot get your muscles to relax manually, you may need to see a therapist for some “talk therapy” to see if you can get to the root cause of the issue. You may also be referred to a sex therapist for some helpful techniques that can relieve the tension, fear, and anxiety.
There are a few alternative healing remedies you can try to change the response in your pelvic floor muscles. These include:
Meditation and Mindfulness. You need to increase your mindfulness of the present. It helps you focus on your breathing, your thoughts, and your emotions. Try a simple meditation where you clear your mind of all thoughts and just tune in to your breaths. Then focus only on your body. Any thoughts that enter your mind from the past or even daily routine need to be sent away until you are only focusing on the rhythm of your body. After you are able to clear and connect with yourself, try relaxing your pelvic floor and seeing if you can insert something into your vagina without the spasms. Give yourself time and patience.
Yoga. Check with a yoga studio in your area to see if there is a sexual or tantric yoga class. They will teach you and your partner yoga positions that can help improve your connections as partners and ease lovemaking without stress and tension.
Acupuncture. Talk to a Chinese medicine practitioner about acupuncture for sexual dysfunction. This may help open up the flow of energy that affects the sexual organs.
Open Up and Talk About Things. The intimate connection between you and your partner involves talking about how you are feeling. Let them know it isn’t them and that you need them to help you feel more relaxed. Tell them about your needs and what you like to make sex more pleasurable and comfortable.
Make Good Lifestyle Choices. Alcohol can be numbing to sexual response. Try not to drink too much. Get exercise which can increase endorphins, the “feel good” chemicals that can make you feel sexy and in the mood.
Reduce the Stress. Find ways to lower your stress levels and tension. Practice meditation or get out of the house for a walk.
Invest in a Good Lubricant. Moisture can increase comfort for insertion. It is helpful both for intercourse and tampon insertion. Sometimes, this is all it takes to relieve the condition. Many women develop vaginismus from painful insertion and then react to dryness that way every time. Lubricant can easily remedy this cause.
Clitoral Stimulation. Stimulating the clitoris can relax the pelvic floor muscles and prepare them for penetration. This is helpful in a lot of women who have not been able to achieve an orgasm. Once the body knows the response of penetration will be a good one, the tension may go away.
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